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One of the hardest things to do in life is to let go of a relationship. No matter what the cause of a breakup, learning to let go just often isn’t easy to do. It could be the one that got away, a first love, a spouse, a boyfriend or girlfriend, or unrequited love. Regardless of the situation, learning to let go of what’s over is often a very difficult thing to do and the hurt can often last for years if a person simply won’t break the hold.

Recovering from the horrible pain and hurt of a broken relationship is no easy task. When love is found, one naturally wants to believe it will last forever. And it’s great when it does. But when it doesn’t, the hurt and pain can be devastating. But even more devastating can be the pain and suffering the person experiences from not letting go of what’s gone and moving on with living.

Turning off feelings for someone isn’t like turning off a light switch. When a relationship ends, it doesn’t mean the feelings disappear or go away. Being left alone with feelings of emptiness, loneliness, anger, grief, rejection, and despair can prove to be overwhelming. The person might find themselves attempting to contact the other person, making up reasons to be where the other person is, calling them repeatedly, etc….anything to keep in contact with the other person or have some kind of hold or attachment still with them. And while it’s a natural thing to want to do this, it prevents us being healed of the relationship.

In order to let go and live again, the past must be closed. It is impossible to live in the past. You can’t look forward to a future when you live in what was, rather than in the here and now. What has happened is gone, and no amount of wanting, wishing, or regret will undo or changed what’s already happened and is over with.

To put closure on the past, you have to let go of the feeling that you can’t make it without the other person. Feelings of failure, trying to contact the person (unless you have children together), dependency, guilt, resentment, and anger… all of these feelings must be dealt with and brought under control. While they are normal to feel, continuing to harbor them keeps you from being healed of the hurt, and therefore keeps you from living and being happy again.

Often when a relationship ends, one or both parties have the mindset that they are a failure. They measure their self worth by whether a relationship lasted or died. One’s self worth should never be measured by another person, but rather how they are. When you love yourself, you will learn that your self worth does not revolve around another person but rather is enhanced by the other person.

While there is just no way to magically heal the pain and hurting of a lost relationship, there are ways to help yourself heal. The main thing is that you have to allow yourself to want to heal, and not keep clinging to something that you simply cannot change.

• Stop beating yourself up over the past. It’s done, it’s gone, it’s not changing. No matter who is at fault for the breakup, no amount of blaming yourself or feeling guilty will undo the past. Forgive either the other person or yourself (or both) and allow yourself to be happy again.

• Unless you have children together, stop contacting the person. Don’t try to be where they are, don’t call them and leave them messages, don’t email them, don’t follow them around. Leave them alone! Continuing to attempt to be in contact with them (unless you have kids) does nothing but harass them and keep you tied to the pain.

• Go out on dates with others and actually enjoy yourself. Have fun! And whatever you do, don’t spend the date talking about your ex and how much you miss them and want them back. This won’t lead to a second date! Go out and be happy, leave the worries behind. You might just find you had a fantastic time.

Allow yourself to heal from the breakup. Allow yourself to enjoy life again, to be happy. Allow yourself to heal from the past hurts and pain. Allow yourself the freedom to love again. Let go of the past, and be happy.

Naks. npaka.helpful q nmn. prang nakaranas na..

haha:) hope this could help:)

For Filipinos out there do youknow what day is today and what is the event being celebrated? It’s Bonifacio Day! The day when Andres Bonifacio died! I usually am not very patriotic about those heroes and heroines. But now we can be a hero in our own little way! Right? By just helping people with a glad heart and sincerity we already give themhope tolive for. Naks! DEMOCRAT! HAHA:) No really, I swear we really need persons like that including myself! DUH? HAHA:) So let us be inspired of this day to help people emotionally, mentally, spiritually and not by financially. If youneed money go to the pawnshops. HEHE:)

I really don’t belive on magic like the ones on cards or coins. For me, it is just some kind of illusion and a non-sense thing for what will you gain after seeing that? I was watching Rated K and their theme was magic. Jeffrey Tam was the guest on the show showing some tricks. I really associate it with black magic. But he did a great job for us Filipinos representing the country for the competitions abroad. That’s a good sort of thing. When I was a little younger I was entertained by the tricks magicians do. But now my perceptions for them has changed drastically for illusions and magic tricks for me really don’t exist. Another thing for the magic was losing weight. Are they really hopeless? They would just pay thousands of pesos just to make themselves physically attractive. Bothng beats the natural way of losing weight. through exercise and good diet you will eventually look good. It does not require much effort to do so. All you need is a little amount of discipline coupled with patience and TRALALA:) You’re sexy.

This one I loved the most-PHOTO EDITING. I really want to know how to edit photos. I really, really want to learn to edit since I love to take photographs and I would like them be edited. I learned the basics and I want to learn deeper.

Magic Cane “baston?” is this thing could heal? I don’t think so. I really disagree on the story about a woman who tells the story that she was just handed the power to heal sick people through the can that was given to him by ST. Joseph. It’s like HOMAYGAD:) The story itslef is so weird that I would like to squeeze that woman. How could she even know about the correct form of healing. She even talks about when a child who was diagnosed about mild stroke was brought to her. She just massaged the cervical area (neck for non-medical persons) to improve the circulatin of the blood and te thigh of the child flexes. She said that the massaged she gave helps the child to move and respond. DUH! What if she just touched a crucial area about a joint, a nerve or something that would make the case of the child much more difficult? Her child even helps her healing people through strong tapping anywhere on the area. The history was because her child was playing outside their house when a cane fell down from the heavens. Another HOMAYGAD:) What if the cane was just a branch of the trees on their place? Hay Ambora:) In Psychology, childhood plays a large role in our personality.  The child stands at his story about the cane. When the cane was brought to a botanist to be examined. HOMAYGAD number three! The tree was guava. Guavas just grow everywhere right? Oh well, folklore story guys.  Well, the program was great for I switched to the rival show Mel and Joey. I was amazed by their story about home designing. The house was totally wonderful for it encompasses the earth’s color. I really have to ought to make one of my own. HAHA:)

You may wonder why am I given the name BARNEY. First, you associate my name with the purple dinosaur. But wait, I was not named because of that rex but by my father’s name. My father’s name was Bernardo. My grandmother brought with her a dictionary when my mom labored me and made it a pillow for me for some superstitious beliefs. My mother was scanning through the pages when she saw the name Barney which means an abbreviated name of Bernardo. My name was suppose to Nathaniel. Well, for me I like my first name Nathaniel but it was God’s decision for me to be named BARNEY. and know what I am proud of it because i think I have the most unique name of the world. I am easliy remembered by my acquaintances and friendly! The dinosaur thing was not yet existing by the time I wa born. I first saw this character when I was 8 years old. See? It made me popular. But then some text messages made fun of my name. But the thing is my name is precious as what the verse on the book of Proverbs say. I just forgot the verse. For sure, everything has its history.